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01/02/2008, 20:15 Frenchie Joined on 31/05/2007 Niort, 2 Sèvres,79 Posts 4,672 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place  Meg wrote: Frenchie the 'bullies' only win if you let it get to you. It just feeds them. They may be able to make you feel rotten, but they can't take what is inside, your spirit. Remember that they are the weak ones, that's why they behave that way. As Twinkle said its usually down to jealously, you make them feel inferior so they try and put you down or exclude you. Good luck, stay strong and don't be afraid to stand up to them, try and identify/deal with the ringleader, the others normally only follow just so they aren't on the receiving end. Thanks for your very supportive and interesting post... I believe in miracles ..........    Report

01/02/2008, 20:15 Frenchie Joined on 31/05/2007 Niort, 2 Sèvres,79 Posts 4,672 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place  memb wrote:  Frenchie wrote: I did speak to the ringleader on monday, and a member of management was in the room. I said I was VERY annoyed by the fact that once again I had not been told about a meeting etc.. She just said " don't protest, we ve done the job for you".. and she turned away... You see? She managed to be " the victim " . I went to the management offices, they say they re thinking about solutions. I will go again on monday.   You MUST try and be one step ahead by pre-empting their smart answers.    To the above I would have replied "but may I register with you and management that I am here to do my work and I don't wish anyone to do it for me, not you, not anyone".....and added "please don't turn away when I am speaking".    I will say this next time it happens. MERCI !!! I believe in miracles ..........    Report

01/02/2008, 20:18 Frenchie Joined on 31/05/2007 Niort, 2 Sèvres,79 Posts 4,672 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place  Rose wrote: Hi Frenchie... I've sent you  a PM... don't let them get you down... everything that has been said on here goes to show how much people care about you... and how many people want to help you... keep smiling!! All those posts  got me emotional.. So supportive and friendly ... MERCI A TOUTES ET TOUS I believe in miracles ..........    Report

01/02/2008, 21:14 sweet 17 Joined on 05/08/2006 charente maritime Posts 2,985 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Frenchie, I'm so very sorry you are having these problems.  I don't feel able to give you any advice because I don't think I know what to say.  You have my moral support though, that goes without saying. If I might be permitted just one comment, I'd say refuse to "play", do not be the victim.  Easier said than done, I know and it will mean a lot of hard work on many fronts; physical, mental, whatever it takes. By refusing the role (that of being bullied) that your colleagues have assigned to you, you ensure that they never get the upper hand.  And you will amaze yourself by how well you can cope once you succeed in totally rejecting their psychological manipulations.     Report

01/02/2008, 21:27 Frenchie Joined on 31/05/2007 Niort, 2 Sèvres,79 Posts 4,672 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place  sweet 17 wrote: Frenchie, I'm so very sorry you are having these problems.  I don't feel able to give you any advice because I don't think I know what to say.  You have my moral support though, that goes without saying. If I might be permitted just one comment, I'd say refuse to "play", do not be the victim.  Easier said than done, I know and it will mean a lot of hard work on many fronts; physical, mental, whatever it takes. By refusing the role (that of being bullied) that your colleagues have assigned to you, you ensure that they never get the upper hand.  And you will amaze yourself by how well you can cope once you succeed in totally rejecting their psychological manipulations.      That sums it all .......   MERCI I believe in miracles ..........    Report

01/02/2008, 21:43 mooky Joined on 12/12/2005 79 Posts 315 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Best wishes and love Frenchie. I was bullied by a manager and some of the social work team I worked for. Mainly because I am a little bit different. I ended up having a complete nervouse breakdown, six years ago. Thats why I came here because I had to get away. Do what you think is best for you, but don't let the situation linger on. Bullies are ba*****ds. You are a wonderful person, bon courage, blessings and support.    Report

01/02/2008, 21:50 Just Katie Joined on 11/03/2006 Posts 3,764 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Of course they are jealous of you, why else would they treat you like it?  Turn it around to a positive and be flattered by it.  Enjoy your pupils and let the bullies go to the meetings and take on the extra work.  More fool them It will give you more time to visit Liverpool In the meantime you must be assertive and there has been some great replies to you on this thread so you can start to turn this around The immigrant in the attic    Report

01/02/2008, 21:56 Frenchie Joined on 31/05/2007 Niort, 2 Sèvres,79 Posts 4,672 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Mooking, Thanks for your touching message , and yours as well as Katie's are full of wisdom. Yes, lots of things on the thread helped me think , I already feel more strength to tackle the pb on monday.. That s why I posted about what I had been hiding for    a while.. I thought you all could help.. and you did.. YOU are the wonderful ones.. I believe in miracles ..........    Report

01/02/2008, 23:38 greyman Joined on 06/01/2008 Perigord Blanc 24 Posts 97 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Frenchie, you are right to tackle this problem on Monday. But as you know it can be very emotional and often it can be difficult to think of the right words in a face to face meeting. I think you should put your concerns in writing to your manager. That way you will be able to compose a logical argument, set out examples of the behaviour, possibly refer to any anti-bullying policies your employer has and very importantly have a record of your concerns. My OH and I run a business and we would always take any such complaint very seriously. Lets hope you are treated like this too. Good luck. It is what it is....    Report

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