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01/02/2008, 16:21 Nice Cup of Tea Joined on 01/02/2008 Posts 9 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place It is a recognised problem, and isn't committed just by insecure individuals, but sometimes by entire teams of co-workers. There are many webpages devoted to it.  Here's one http://www.doctissimo.fr/html/psychologie/mag_2001/mag0112/ps_2809_harcelement_moral.htm      Report

01/02/2008, 17:16 TWINKLE Joined on 11/03/2006 Tarn 81 Posts 3,930 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place I think jealousy could be a factor. Frenchie - you are an attractive, single mother and I imagine - from your immpecable english and positve, fun attitude on the forum - that you are also a good teacher and popular with your students.  Maybe some of the married staff feel threathened by you and are envious of your lifestye - travelling to Britain and meeting new people while they are stuck in a stale marriage and consider their job to be a grind. Very Marge Proops (agony aunt)  of me I know - but this is MY gut feeling.     Report

01/02/2008, 17:26 Geordie girl Joined on 15/09/2007 Dept 50 Posts 931 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place frenchie, what a rotten situation to be in. Bullies are usually weak  and so choose even weaker people to be in their " gang " as they like to stay as "top dog ". They must live pretty boring lives if it makes them feel good by alienating you and your friend at work. Like Twinkle said they could be jealous of your lifestyle your career your everything. You`ll never know really until one of this  "gang " gets fed up and pulls away & spills the beans. Good luck geordiegirl    Report

01/02/2008, 17:47 Pads Joined on 24/05/2006 Cornwall/ Montage Noir Posts 3,427 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Frenchie , be brave and just go up to one of them on there own and ask them straight out , they will be very embrassed and hopfully wont do it again. but you may get an answer as to why ? it will probally be some thing silly , that some one thinks you have done or said , go for it gal !! Dirty Tom =^..^= Where ever I lay my paw thats my home    Report

01/02/2008, 17:55 Renaud Joined on 23/08/2004 Barnes / Mirambeau Posts 631 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Frenchie - I am truely sorry to hear about your predicament. I hope that it gets better but if it does not you have to consider your options. I have been in a similar situation and decided to cut my losses and go freelance rather than be in a situation where I did not like going to work. After I made the break a better job opportunity became available. Good luck. Gus www.relax-in-france.com    Report

01/02/2008, 18:14 memb Joined on 18/01/2008 Posts 242 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place  Renaud wrote: Frenchie - I am truely sorry to hear about your predicament. I hope that it gets better but if it does not you have to consider your options. I have been in a similar situation and decided to cut my losses and go freelance rather than be in a situation where I did not like going to work. After I made the break a better job opportunity became available. Good luck. But is'nt that letting the bully/ies win?    It worked out for you and thats great, but that (unfortunately) cannot be the outcome in lots and lots of cases.      Personally, in this situation, I would face it head on as the previous poster wrote and confront him/her/them, but I am aware not everyone can do that.   Management are there to sort this out otherwise its victimisation.      Does anyone remember the thread "The Fat Club"....as was stated on that thread, some bullies rally their troops together with one aim in mind and thats to overcome their victim in every way possible.       If Frenchie can't face him/her/them head on, she needs to speak to someone who can.    Report

01/02/2008, 18:23 Meg and Mog Joined on 17/02/2006 Mog is back! Posts 2,003 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Frenchie the 'bullies' only win if you let it get to you. It just feeds them. They may be able to make you feel rotten, but they can't take what is inside, your spirit. Remember that they are the weak ones, that's why they behave that way. As Twinkle said its usually down to jealously, you make them feel inferior so they try and put you down or exclude you. Good luck, stay strong and don't be afraid to stand up to them, try and identify/deal with the ringleader, the others normally only follow just so they aren't on the receiving end. Meg & Mog .    Report

01/02/2008, 18:50 Frenchie Joined on 31/05/2007 Niort, 2 Sèvres,79 Posts 4,653 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place I ve just read all those posts and first, let me thank you all for your very kind and interesting answers.. I will try and answer  all your questions.. Tonight at work, I ve noticed that someone who was very friendly to me desn't speak to me any longer, and I don't know why.. She even accused me of being a liar  .. My friend and I have talked to the management quite a while ago, they just said we should not do or say anything, it would sort it out by itself, calm dfown.. But it doesn't. And so much has been happening since the beginning of the week...... It s been bad for a while, but in the past maybe I didn't feel strong enough  , to react.. those bullies are good at persuading you that you are not interesting, etc.. and as soon as they notice someone gets on well with me, it s gossiping until the person is brainwashed ( what do they tell them???) , until the person ignores me !! Now I ve decided enough is enough and I want something to happen to make things change. I m very confused tonight, I need to chill down a bit, I will re read your posts with attention, lots of interesting stuff on here !! and a bisou !! I believe in miracles ..........    Report

01/02/2008, 18:58 Rose Joined on 06/02/2007 Dordogne (24) Posts 842 Re: Moral harrassment on the work place Hi Frenchie... I've sent you  a PM... don't let them get you down... everything that has been said on here goes to show how much people care about you... and how many people want to help you... keep smiling!!    Report

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