This is probably not what you want to hear and I do empathise with you! However, 15 and a half years on and I'm still working hard at pleasing my daughter-in-law! As far as I have found, there is no other way if you want to keep you son and, in our case, our three grandchildren. That old saying comes to mind....."a daughter is a daughter for all of her life, a son is a son till he takes a wife! Very true!
I'm sure there will be others who have different experiences of daughters-in-law. Mine is very nice at times and can be extremely caring and helpful too but only when it pleases her. The latest little niggle (but I'll never let on it's a niggle!) was when my youngest daughter visited them for a night and went to wash her hands at the kitchen sink. She asked for the soap and was told that there wasn't any in the kitchen as her brother had this nasty habit of washing his dirty hands in the kitchen sink and that is so unhygenic! Well, of course, where would he get that nasty habit from? I rest my case!
I have never fallen out with my daughter-in-law and my advice to you is to roll your shoulders, count to ten and keep sight of the fact that your son has made his choice and unfortunately you have no say in that choice! And, for goodness sake, don't fall out with her or you will most likely loose your son as well....after all, to him, she is the best thing since sliced bread!
We often lunch at a local restaurant and chat to the same elderly chap.( I think he is in his late 80s) His only child, a son, lives in the USA but sometimes comes to Europe for work related stuff.
Our elderly friend mentioned the son and his wife were due to visit and he always says ' she wouldn't have been my choice for him'.
One day I asked him how long his son and his wife had been together - the answer was 40 years !!!
I guess we don't always know best.
Cathy wrote: Can one influence a son so that he realises that perhaps she isn't the best choice or is that a dangerous course of action?
What is so wrong with a shallow, stunning, beautifull looking stick insect?
Can all the footballers and celebs be so wrong?
My answer is probably yes!
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